One thing I want to touch on briefly is the importance of remembering her name. I know that this should be an obvious thing to do, but you would be surprised at the number of people who cannot remember a name to save their lives.
Women dislike when a man can’t remember their name or they mispronounce it or they call her “Sally” when in fact her name is “Sue.” It’s like you’re not making the effort to pay attention. Like she didn’t make enough of an impression for you to remember her name. It sounds somewhat petty, but stuff like this matters to women.
Well, it matter to men, too. You like it when people remember your name, don’t you? Sure you do. So, knowing her name and getting it right can mean the difference between hitting it off with the lady of your choosing or totally bombing out. Remember, you want to make a connection and start doing and this is a good place to start.
The gist is this: It’s important to not get ahead of yourself and get so focused on starting the conversation or getting her number that you miss something this crucial. That’s why I said it was important to get your nerves under control. So, just focus and make it a habit to of asking and remembering her name. Once you do this, it will become second nature.
While I know this point might seem a bit obvious—I mean, what’s the point of talking to a woman if you don’t get her name?—I just wanted to address this.
And this is because asking her name is important to the conversation. This forces her to make a connection with you by giving out this bit of crucial information.
Also, remembering her name and using it in your conversation will score some major points—“Oh, he’s got good attention to detail. He remembered my name.”
Let me emphasize this point: You need to pay attention. Paying attention to her name and what she’s saying will score you big points.
The best time to ask her name is just after you two meet. Perhaps you are in a bar and you’ve got the sign to approach. You’ve gone up to her and said “Hello.”
Now all you have to do is lead with your opener such as, “It’s busy in here tonight,” or whatever. Then, after she responds, smile and say, “Oh, by the way, I’m Bubba. And you are?” Then she will give you her name. After she does so with an, “Oh, I’m Sally Sue,” tell her, “It’s nice to meet you, Sally Sue. Can I buy you a drink?”
See how easy that is? You just interject her name whenever it’s pertinent.
The point is to just let it all happen organically. Smile, be courteous, ask her what she’s drinking and have a waiter bring you two some fresh drinks. Consider that at first this all might be a little nerve-wracking. However, once you two start talking,
you can relax and get to know her better. And that’s the whole point of this thing, right? Plus, in reference to my comment above, the more you do it, the more it will become second nature.
It’s really as easy as one, two, and three: Get the sign to approach. Ap- proach with a “Hi, how are you?” and wait for the response. Then say something about the situation/place you two are in, “Man, it’s busy in here tonight.” Then let her respond then say, “Oh, by the way, I’m Bubba. And you are?” She’s Sally Sue.
Now ask her what’s she drinking and buy the lady a drink.
Everyone loves it when you remember their name. It makes them feel special that you made the effort. It sounds a little silly that such a small thing could be a big deal, but it makes an impact. It can make the difference between getting her number and asking her out on a date or not.
In a nutshell, you always must remember to make an effort and pay attention when she tells you her name. Don’t get it wrong or forget it. Ask twice if you have to and memorize it if necessary. If she has an unusual name, ask her to, please, spell it for you. If you pronounce it wrong—don’t do so on purpose and make a joke out of it as she’s probably heard this a zillion times—she will correct you. Don’t get embarrassed if you do so, just shrug it off what a, “I’m terrible at names.” Many people are so she’ll more than likely understand.
Also, by interjecting her name at certain points in the conversation, she will be more open and this will allow her to talk to you more easily. That means your work is almost done! If you’re cool and mind your P’s and Q’s, the rest should take care of itself.