Bear in mind that you will, more than likely, be very nervous when you first start talking to a woman you don’t know. That’s okay. We all get nervous when talking to someone new. (I don’t know anyone with nerves of steel.)
We don’t want to come off as looking like an idiot or make an ass out of ourselves. Of course, you might stumble over your words and that’s okay. It’s okay to not always have to be the super cool guy or whatever.
But how to overcome your nervousness? It’s easy and it works: Take a deep breath, tell yourself that everything will be okay and then go about your business.
You have to walk through the fear to get to the other side and, after you do this a few times, your nervousness should subside. The more times you do it, the more comfortable you will get at doing it.
If you have trouble talking to people in general, here’s a suggestion: Why not try talking to people in ordinary situations? You can do this by talking to the cashier at the grocery store, people you see on the elevator at work, people on the subway or on buses. The point is to try and hone your conversation skills in everyday situations. That way, when you have an opportunity to talk to a beautiful lady,
you’ll be ready.
Another good point to make is that just being yourself will help you over many hurdles. If you’re just yourself, you don’t have to put up a front that someone might see through, which might make you even more nervous. It’s very important to come across as a genuine guy and it’s so easy to accomplish and all you have to do is just be yourself.
Nerves can get in the way of this and that’s why you should just do your best to not let them dictate how you act. If you let your nerves take over, then things could turn out… Well, not so good. If, however, you take a breath, allow your nerves to calm a little, then you can be yourself. And women love men who are true to who they are.
When you do this, you allow her to get to know you better and also to ascertain if she would, in fact, like to go out on a date with you. So, it’s important to keep your nerves in check and to relax. Once you can do that, you can talk with the best of them and keep up.