You know, there are many women out there who will take it upon themselves to actually start conversations with men. They are not a rare breed. So, knowing this, it might be a good idea if you make sure that you, yourself, are open to conversation.
And all you have to do is put out signs that you are ready and willing to be talking to. If you’re all closed-off looking or you’re the one wearing a scowl, perhaps because your nerves are getting the best of you and making you fear rejection, then no woman is probably going to approach you.
This is why it is so important that you just relax when you’re out there. Be ready to talk. Be loose with your body language and inviting new people in. If you’re nice, someone will want to talk to you.
This is not to say that you don’t have to make the effort to talk to the ladies.
You can’t just gamble and wait on them to come to you. You do still have to make the effort. However, it is a good idea in social settings to always put off the vibe you are ready to be talked to. Don’t close yourself off and drown your sorrows in a pint. Relax, like I said, and be open. Look around the room with interested eyes.
See who’s there. The most important aspect to looking open is to smile and make eye contact with women and nod in acknowledgment. And maybe, just maybe, someone will approach you.
It’s been done. And it could happen to you. Just put yourself out there and see what happens. And if no one approaches you? Then so what? You’re still a nice guy and you deserve to talk to a lady. So, find one and see what happens. That’s all you can do and that’s all you have to do.
A Few Crucial Points
Before we go any further, there is a crucial point I want to make. And that is, initiating a conversation with a woman is just like initiating one with anyone else.
You should take the same approach that you would with a business colleague or an acquaintance from your apartment building or the guy who checks you out at the convenience store. When you look at it this way, it’s not that big of a deal, right? Right.
So, there’s no need to be that nervous, is there? Nope.
Also, allow for the context of the situation you are in. If you’re in a bar or club or whatever, women usually go to these places because they want men to talk to them. Again, there’s no need to be nervous! However, if you’re at a grocery store, she might not want to be bothered, that’s why you have to look for the signs that she’s interested in talking with you. Context is everything.
One last thing. You will not get her to go out with you unless you ask her and to ask her you have to talk to her. You have to get the conversation going.
Sure, there are occasions when a woman asks a man out, but it’s a rarity and can only happen once the conversation has been initiated. The starting conversation is a step that has to be taken. It cannot be skipped. It’s that important.